Thursday, July 17, 2008

My thoughts on a True 24/7 BDSM Relationship

Well, here goes my thoughts to others who say that 24/7 can be long distance, can be married to someone else, can be together ONLY when they can get away.
You are fooling yourself.
The BDSM lifestyle has been a lifestyle of mine for over 15 years and I am sure I conjured up such unrealistic fantasies to keep me warm at night too, but never would I openly say that I am in a 24/7 relationship and Master lives 400 miles away. It is absurd.
The concept of 24/7 means that you are in that relationship 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Not when "Master" is off with his wife or family and had sent you a list of things to do that day to keep you occupied. It means that the 2 of you are committed to being in a relationship ALL THE TIME!!! Hell, what is left after the 24 hours in a day and the 7 days in a week???
I hear it all the time. "Master lives in Cleveland and I live in Orlando, but we are a 24/7 couple." "He is married but as soon as his 12 year old is of legal age he will be leaving and moving to Orlando to be with me." That is over 6 years away!!! What are you thinking? 24/7 what again? You talk to him for 24 hours a year and see him 7 days in a year when he sneaks away for a work related seminar? Come on.... pay attention here. It takes work to make any relationship flourish yet alone being half way across the country waiting for some dude's child to grow up and head to college. Simple.
It doesn't work. I see it happen ALL the time. It is a fantasy but does not become a reality.From the Master's point of view, his life is perfect. A good job, wife, kids, 2 cars, a dog and a swimming pool in the back yard. Oh yeah... and a submissive for when he needs her. Perfect.The submissive derives pleasure from being told what to do, what to wear to work that day, and when Master can steal a few minutes from his life to chat with her on line. Oh yeah, be sure you check your email. After a time period this is not enough for her and it shouldn't be. Sneak away maybe for a week end when Master can get away. The submissive feels the control mentally but this control creates a yearning for a more defined relationship. End result. The relationship ends. At best, both with saying they grew apart. At worst, one will call the other a Bastard.No, this has never happened to me.It is something I see day in and day out and many just do not realize it.And it is sadI have been submissive to many men and in many different types of relationships but never collared to any until it was decided we actually are a 24/7 couple. We wake up together, we go to sleep together, Master works, i am house slave, resident cook, maid and numerous other things.We have guidelines, rules. Goals.We have a relationship.Not in a milllion years could you sell me on the concept that a 24/ long distance relationship will work.

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